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The Limits of Pursuing the Best!

“Always pursue the best in everything!”

You have surely heard this advice from a friend or from a motivational speaker. You may have even found it logical advice that deserves observance.

Yet is it really sound advice?

Is it beneficial as a persistent life style?

Some people strenuously seek to be “No. 1” in all aspects of life. Hence, they work towards owning the best house, the best car, and even the best mobile phone, in their quest for maximum happiness. Here, I refer to the people who pursue optimum choices, not just good choices that fulfill purposes. Those persons watch TV shows and programs to ascertain that their choices are the optimum ones, and they earnestly seek to know how things ended up for others who made different choices just to make sure that their own choices are the optimum ones.

Is it beneficial to always work towards the best?

Some people claim that such is good, since it motivates people to be successful and outstanding in life in general. This really sounds logical.

Yet, what do scientific studies and experiments tell us about such issue?

A recipe for misery?

In a scientific study conducted by Barry Schwartz and his colleagues on this phenomenon, with the purpose of identifying psychological consequences attending to those who assume such approach in their life, the outcome was a surprise! They found out that a constant quest for the best possible choices in daily life makes people vulnerable to:

  • Low level of happiness
  • Low self-esteem
  • Low level of optimism
  • Dwindling of satisfaction with life
  • Rise in depression
  • Frequent sense of regret

This sounds really weird! So, what is the scientific interpretation of such unexpected outcome?

Multiple Choices

To know the answer, let’s start from the beginning and ask a simple question:

Which is better: To have many choices or fewer choices?

In a study, Iyengar and Lepper recruited a group of people and divided them into groups. One group was offered six choices of chocolates, and another was offered thirty choices. Which group showed greater satisfaction with what they purchased?

You might suppose that the second group would show greater satisfaction since its members enjoyed more choices, but the opposite was true. The members of the first group showed greater satisfaction with their selections.

Schwartz suggests that when a person faces fewer choices, it becomes easier to make a decision. When choices increase, a person’s mind encounters several challenges, including the need to collect more data to compare all the options. Expectations rise with the number of options. One is then more vulnerable to regret. With unlimited choices, it should be possible to choose the best!

In today’s world, life is getting more complicated with far more choices than were available for our ancestors. In the past, one sitting in a cafeteria could drink either tea or coffee. Today, one sitting in a coffee shop has dozens of choices. One may choose English breakfast tea, Earl Gray tea, green tea, or white tea (yes, there is white tea!). For coffee, one could choose Frappuccino, mocha, or latte. Caramel sauce, hazelnuts, blueberries, cherries, or mint? All these choices are available in the place where people seek mental relief!

What does this have to do with the present topic?

Nowadays, the persistent quest for the best has become more demanding. The quest for freedom and having choices in life is desirable. Yet we must develop psychologically in order to be able to cope with this new reality. Perhaps, instead of seeking perfection in all choices in life, we can simply choose to concentrate our attention on that which is important to us and stop continually exhausting energy on marginal issues.

Obama, for instance, maintained in an interview, “I don’t want to make decisions about what I’m eating or wearing. Because I have too many other decisions to make.” That means he wants to save his mental energy for that which is more important.

It is also known that Einstein, in an attempt to save his mental energy, used to purchase many identically gray suits so that he would not have to choose what to wear every morning. Steve Jobs used to wear a black turtleneck and Levi’s 501 jeans for all his public meetings, perhaps for a similar reason.

Does this means they were all losers because they did not seek perfection by choosing the best outfit? Perhaps the answer lies in that they recognized that they were not fashion models and that they had to focus their decision capacity on the specific fields that mattered for them!

Some people seek to make the best choices in every area, looking for the greatest possible sense of happiness. The problem with such a way of thinking is that it makes those people encounter any situation in life with a “Who wants to be a billionaire?” attitude, feeling that there is only one right choice and they have to find it. Therefore, they are more susceptible to psychological pressure and mental exhaustion as they attempt to figure out the right choices.

Life does not follow this pattern. In many cases, there are no right and no wrong choices. There are also ordinary and unimportant choices. So, it is absurd to blame yourself because you ordered latte instead of cappuccino!

It seems that if you keep seeking to make the single right choice in all aspects of life, you will never attain satisfaction. For no matter how meticulous you are, everything in life involves disadvantages. If you do not acknowledge and condone disadvantages in every single choice, you will not be happy or satisfied with life at all. Hence, well-being largely depends on your way of thinking!

Let’s take it easy and focus only on that which is important. For me, there is no benefit in spending undue time in front of a certain shelf in a supermarket comparing goods of similar ingredients, quality, and price, only to identify the best among them. For me, it is much more important to care about choosing ways to attain professional improvement.

In a nutshell

Today, there are so many life choices that it is critical for us to ration the use of our brain power to focus on that which is most important. Some things deserve our utmost care and concentration, and others should be laxly considered with no need to prove ourselves through our choices. For example, it may be important to work towards being the best in a field that matters to you, while it is mentally mature to accept not being the first in other fields.

Pursue your own happiness, but know that the quest for “the maximum possible happiness” is psychologically exhausting and could be counterproductive … Do not seek to attain perfection or to own the best things all the time, as the message communicated is more important that the brand of the mobile used in communicating it, and the destination is more important than the vehicle used in reaching it. Let your whole attention be channeled towards your major objectives in life, instead of focusing on small victories. That is why Jobran kahalil Jobran said, “Don’t make your clothes the most expensive thing you have, so one day you will not find yourself cheaper than what you wear!”

Editor’s Note: This article was originally written in Arabic and translated into English by Wael Badran.

 


 

References:

Iyengar, S. S., & Lepper, M. R. (2000). When choice is demotivating: Can one desire too much of a good thing?. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 79(6), 995.

Schwartz, B., Ward, A., Monterosso, J., Lyubomirsky, S., White, K., & Lehman, D. R. (2002). Maximizing versus satisficing: happiness is a matter of choice. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 83(5), 1178.

Schwartz, B. (2000). Self-determination: The tyranny of freedom. American Psychologist, 55(1), 79.

Schwartz, B. (2004). The Paradox of Choice: Why More Is Less. New York: Ecco.

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